I came across the following video this week. It was worth every single minute spent watching it. SPOT.ON. Spot on.
How Suffering Forms Us: Jerry Sittser on Adversity as Spiritual Formation
Jerry Sittser is the author of "A Grace Disguised." It's been one of the most powerful books I've read thus far on the grief journey. Jerry and his family were the victims of a drunk driving accident in which he suffered the loss of his daughter, his wife, and his mother.
Stay watching to the end. There are several minutes of Q & A time in which he gives excellent, insightful answers.